Thursday, January 19, 2006

Quandary!

A few weeks ago, a friend of mine told me that she was falling in love with a very sweet guy, and they talk on the phone all the time, have so much in common, and are getting very close.

A few days ago, another friend of mine told me the same thing.

About the same guy.

The girls, of course, don't know about each other. The guy very likely is doing this just to be flirty and friendly, and doesn't think anyone is taking this seriously.

Why do I suddenly feel like a minor character from a Shakespearean comedy?

7 comments:

Anonymous Assclown said...

I think it sounds less Shakespearean and more Three's Companyean.

Tirithien said...

I wish there were an easy answer. I know both the girls involved- a friend of yours is a friend of mine, though you know them better- and there's no easy way to do this.

What if the guy's sincere, but one girl misinterprets? What if he's just a dillweed and stringing them both along?

I wish I knew an answer.

Bainwen Gilrana said...

It can't be Three's Companyean, because there's no canned laugh track following me around. And this is generally a very good thing.

martie said...

Sounds like a really tough spot to be in! Good luck to you ~

clew said...

My Hub would say that if you know all 3 of them, tell the guy to straighten it out. If he didn't, tell the girls.

I dont know if you really would, but you could possibly say, I really don't want to be responsible for that, or oh I don't know. Is it really my business?

To which he'd say, wouldn't YOU want a friend to tell you if they knew this about the guy you were falling in love with?

Just a thought ;)

Good luck with this. :/

naive-no-more said...

Eee. I don't envy you your position. I once had a friend and her husband calling me for advice without the other one knowing. I tried putting the kabash on it more than once, but both kept it up.

Finally, I arranged for each one to come over to talk and when they both showed up at the same time, I slipped out and let them talk. They never called again.

naneth said...

I had a friend once. Truly! Actually, I had two, believe it or not.

I waited too long to tell them they were seeing the same guy. One of them knew he was cheating (with her), and was mad at me for telling. The other one was mad because I had waited so long to tell her. So I lost them both.

I think Clew's husband has the best advice!

Or, invite the three of them to meet you and Tirithien for lunch or something (if they live close enough), then you two don't show up and let them deal with it themselves. Kinda mean, but...it would work. At least this guy would be caught between a rock and a hard place and have to fess-up. I guess maybe you should show up, so it would look like an innocent mistake; otherwise they'll know they had been set up.

Or, go with a portable laugh track. I'm sure you can make one yourself with one of those little recorders. Good luck.